Chapter 5: The Holy Grail
“Man is the only creature who has a nasty mind.” — Mark Twain
Remember that girl who blew your mind with her sexual appetite and daring? You may have met her in a bar, at a party, in the grocery store, or at the dentist’s office. Or maybe you met her on that flight home for Thanksgiving.
Anyway, it wasn’t long before you were back at her place. As soon as you walked through the door she was peeling off her clothes. (No need for her to slip off her panties. She wasn’t wearing any.) Next thing you knew she was spread out on the floor hand-cuffed to a case of Reddi-Wip.
She proceeded to screw your lights out. She quickly flipped them back on, only to screw them out again. Change blown fuses. Disinfect wounds. Rub in Bengay. Rinse. Repeat.
These are women with turbo-charged sexual energy. They have a certain presence; a damn-the-torpedoes horniness that drives them to try anything, anywhere, anytime. Or is it all the time?
Just about every man I interviewed had experienced a girl like this at one point in his life. A lot of these encounters occurred while the men I interviewed were in college and they had these experiences with women of a similar age. Other men met their sexual tigress when both were in their 40s or even older. Regardless of when they crossed paths, they never forgot these insatiable women. Fondly. Longingly.
Among the 40 to 50-year-old women with voracious sexual appetites, is it just that they somehow discovered the secret to keeping a man happy (not with the cooking)? Or did they just grow comfortable with their bodies–even when imperfect—and sexuality as they entered the prime of their lives, with the stresses of kids and prior soured relationships a distant memory? I didn’t solve that mystery.
So who are these women? Alas, they make up no more than 20 percent of the lady pool. Tops. Many of the girls these men remember so fondly may not even be a part of the 20 percent. They might have just been going through a short crazy-sex phase in their youth.
The challenge is finding the ones who were not in a phase, but were blessed with the crazy-sex gene. That’s what this chapter will help men do. Of course, there’s the additional challenge of finding a woman with the crazy-sex gene who isn’t also psycho; one who is stable and meets your other requirements. And visa versa.
These men described in detail the traits and behaviors these women had. I compiled a list of the ones I heard the most often. Just to be clear: this list doesn’t describe women who love sex. It describes women who need sex. Many women say they love sex and want sex. But few really need it.
Another thing: These women are not sluts, looking to fill some other need with sex. Their need for sex is primal; it’s part of who they are.
About the list and the interviews. It’s funny really. People will tell you almost anything if you ask. And asking the questions the right way can elicit insights that surprise even the interviewee. I challenged men to tell me about that girl. The one who was different from all of the others.